Saturday, January 16, 2010

I wish I were a butterfly

Once upon a time, lived a thirteen year old girl, who would look in the mirror, seeing a reflection of disgust and embaressment, and wonder if she would ever see a change.
This young girl, a girl with a corrupted childhood and a lack of an understanding towards the deeper components in life, looked in the mirror again one day, analysing the relflection. She told herself, "I know I will never change, I will never be thin, and I just have to accept this." Wishing there was another way, yet realising there would never be, she accepted herself, as a chubby little girl who would never be pretty and never be thin.

That is the last moment the young girl could remember. Before, that is, she transformed into a beautifu butterfly, and began to spread her wings. See, this thirteen year old girl was coming to many revelations. Boys, friends, parties, makeup, clothing. She noticed her friends, particulary the girl who would consistently eat a single apple each day at lunch, nothing more, nothing less. The young girl became very perceptive to the bodies on television shows, such as the o.c. Girls in bikinis. She could be one of those girls. And so she began to exercise, a daily walk, a few hundred situps.
Summer holidays came, summer holidays went, and the young girl returned to school. After an entire summer of eating fruits and vegetables, and small amounts. After an entire summer of continuos exercise, of dusting on makeup after dying her hair. After an entire summer of a routine she did not know she was completing, of a diet she did not know she was following, of an exercising regime she did not realise she was finishing each day... She had changed, she had transformed, well... she was close to it.
As she returned to school that summer, compliments came flying in her direction, praise an cheers and gasps. Girls telling her she was gorgeous, thin, stunning. "what did you do?" "how did you do it?" "did you diet?"

And the young girl, almost fourteen now, looked back at these girls, at her family, at the world. She looked into the mirror, at the relection, at herself, and smiled for a short second. Then she frowned, a tear fell, she dropped to the floor.
She was not pretty, she was not thin.
These girls, her family, the world. They were all crazy, insane, insulting.
She was not pretty, she was not thin.
She was the same, why would people suggest otherwise?
The girl looked back into the mirror, at the relection only she could see, the relection that had changed for others, and not for her.
She stared toward her perception...
That was when the battle began.
That was when the eating stopped, the exercise started.
That was when the happiness halted, the lies began.
That was when she lost herself, the girl she accepted.
That was when she became a butterfly in the making, and she didn't even know it.
That..
That was anorexia.
Real anorexia.
Anorexia Nervosa.
The kind that you are blind to.
The kind you do not notice.
The kind you do not control.
The kind that see's you.
The kind that notices you.
The kind that controls you.
As the girl stared at her relection, and skipped her meals, and stopped eating in public, and exercised constantly, and stopped bothering with school, and became all about appearance, and distanced from her family, she fought a battle she didn't know she had.
Her perception had changed, her reality was altered.
She saw a caterpillar, when in fact, she was a butterfly.
And to this day, now almost eighteen years old, the girls perception hasn't healed, the girl still see's a caterpillar, and wishes that one day, she could be a butterly, again.

Friday, January 1, 2010

Me

To you, I am a stranger.
Another girl on another blog.
It's the little things about someone.
That makes them who they are.
So here is a list of random things about myself.
So maybe, just maybe, you will notice a link in common that we share.
And then, maybe you will realise I am not a stranger.
Not another girl on another blog.
That the little things that make me who I am.
Are just like your's.
1. My favourite part of Alice in Wonderland is the moment when she breaks off/ eats the mushroom.
2. I am obsessed with flossing my teeth, but only ever do it once in a blue moon.
3. I prefer unflavoured waxed floss.
4. My favourite flavour chewing gum is "exrta bubblegum flavour sugar free chewing gum for kids."
5. I actually enoy the taste of black coffe with no added sugar.
6. If I were to drink orange jucie, I prefer pulp in it.
7. I feel invigorated when I am sewing, but also angry because I always screw it up somehow.
8. I can not recall a time when I have ever actually been happy.
9. If I do eat, I like to eat things that I hate: eg: raw mushrooms, peas, pickles.
10. I have insomnia.
11. I can gladly stare at a wall all night and it won't bother me.
12. When I get hyperactive, I have to clean everything and reorganize everything.
13. At night time, I always have the best ideas and the most exciting revelations that make no sense in the morning.
14. I despise the number 8.
15. I always press the letter "G" then backspace it several times.
16. I am deadly illergic to cashew nuts.
17. My perception on myself and everything else is completely screwed up.
18. I remember nothing of my childhood as I blacked most of it out.
19. I generally black out on a daily basis.
20. I do not fear death- I welcome it- I challenge it.
21. I believe schizofrenicz are not crazy.
22. I sense when people have a mental illness such as depression or an ED.
23. I am in love with candles, and fire for that matter.
24. I love to walk. LOVE to walk!
25. I express myself through writing, poetry, drawing, painting.. etc.
26. I have never been in love.
27. The only thing I live for.. is the idea that maybe one day I will fall in love- a two way love!
28. I have been played by a boy.
29. I am a damn good liar, and lie alot.
30. I prefer depressing music, it is the closest brush with happiness I ever experience.
31. I am extremely insecure.
32. I believe I have bipolar depression, meaning I go from depressed and sad to overly hyperactive again and again.
33. I give up way too easily.
34. I love anything to do with "Reality context" and that includes movies like Donnie Darko.
35. I have literaliy cried myself to sleep many nights- it's not just a saying-you actually fall asleep.
36. I really enjoy reading, a year ago, i'd never have guessed this.
37. I am a "track coverer," where I put a lot of effort into covering my tracks-eg: hiding my ED.
38. I like the colour black and white, because these colours are stable and constant.
39. I always want something so badly, until I get it, then I'm over it.
40. I can easily live off three hours sleep.
41. I find it impossible to study, so much so, that I wonder whether there is an illness that would explain this.
42. I'm not exactly shy, except when I'm around boys or family.
43. I have only ever truly had three bestfriends. One is a callous bitch now, who I realise was a waste of time, one saved my life on many accounts without ever knowing it, the other is my current bestfriend and without her I would gladly throw myself off a cliff.
44. I dislike celebrations, like christmas, easter, birthdays.
45. I don't like family.
46. I want to fall in love and get married, but I don't know if I could deal with having someone around me 24/7 because I like to be alone- I learnt to be alone.
47. If I'm writing a poem, I prefer for it to rhyme.
48. I despise animals, apart from the evil black cats that everyone fears.
49. I hate summer, and love winter.
50. I always have black toe nails, and black fingernails when I can be bothered.
51. I will never pass my drivers licence because I am the worst drive in this world.
52. I genrelly act on impulse.
53. I hate boys with hairy chests and legs.
54. I get inspired by offices.
55. I get inspired by green grass in parks with trees.
I could go on forever, although I simply can not be bothered.